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Bedwetting is nothing to be ashamed about. You are certainly not somehow a bad parent because your child does not stay dry through the night, so stop that thought right now.

Children will also often feel unhappy or inadequate about it already, so there is nothing to be achieved by having it pointed out to them that ‘other children have stopped wetting their bed’ or that it is in any way the child’s fault. Just for a moment imagine the embarrassment of a child who still experiences bedwetting, whilst at a sleepover. That sounds pretty awful, you’ll agree.

In general daytime wetting stops at about three years of age, whilst stopping wetting the bed at night will end by about five. It is common for bedwetting to continue infrequently after this. Bedwetting can also occur when the family or the child is experiencing something stressful such as divorce or some sort unpleasant event. 

Why does my child wet the bed?

Bedwetting is not about laziness or necessarily a call for attention or a sign of weakness. Bedwetting may also happen more in families where siblings or even parents wet their beds, with some studies even suggesting a genetic disposition for bedwetting. Bedwetting may have a medical cause or be related to sensitivity to certain foods. Consult your doctor about any such concerns. Perhaps your child is a heavy sleeper and does not immediately wake up when feeling that their bladder is full? Be aware of possible explanations for bedwetting.

Hypnotherapy can help in a number of ways. Your child may not notice that signal that their bladder is full. Hypnotherapy will help them become more sensitive to that signal and wake up so they can go to the toilet. Hypnotherapy is also very effective for controlling habits or changing patterns of behaviour. In some cases bedwetting may have continued since it does indeed get your attention and in big families or when parents are very busy, a child will use all sorts of ways to get your attention. This is not something selfish but really a normal desire to spend time with you and feel loved. However your child can, with some help, speak up in other ways rather than getting you to take notice by bedwetting. You may also wish to consider how much quality time you spend daily with your children.

Once a child is past about five years of age, bed wetting will become an increasing embarrassing issue. Self esteem can be affected since the child will wonder why other ‘normal’ children do not wet the bed at night. Your child may then feel down about this ongoing challenge. Raising self esteem using hypnotherapy will  give you a happy child. It will also give you a confident child who feels and knows that bedwetting is not a big deal. Reducing that feeling of pressure will speed up up the process of ending bedwetting as well.

What you can do

Firstly, as a parent you can reassure your child that bedwetting is not a big deal and that you are in this challenge together. It is nothing to be ashamed about. You may also feel comfortable mentioning if it was a problem for you as a child. Of course use your judgement. It might help your child to know that they are not alone and it happens to others as well.

There are practical tips such as reducing consumption of drinks late at night. It can also be useful to explain what is happening as well. Perhaps mention that right now your child’s bladder is still growing and isn’t quite big enough to hold all the wee, but as they grow up, very soon, it will get bigger and this will all stop happening, there is no need to be concerned. I leave it to you to create your explanation.

It is in general better to ensure the bed has a plastic cover rather than putting your child into thick underpants or nappies. If your child is aware that they are wearing special nappies this may affect how they feel about themselves. They will also know that they do not need to get up to go the toilet since the nappy will absorb any fluid. This may prolong bedwetting.

Ensure you give reassurance after any accidents and that your child has a shower in the morning, so they are fresh and clean for the day. Do not make young children clean up after an accident since they may then feel that they are being punished, adding shame to the embarrassment they may already feel.

Before a sleepover you may wish to inform the parent of the home where the sleepover will be about what is going on. Then also let your child know that they can speak with that parent in confidence and privately should an accident happen. If you do not feel the parent will be sensitive, you may wish to consider other options.

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“My child has nightmares, what can I do?”, is a question many parents ask and is extremely common. Children having nightmares is of course not always just the result of watching scary films either. A child having nightmares may be a one off event or it could also be a sign of other problems, be it finding school work hard, being bullied or feeling stress in some way.

If your child does not sleep well, consider also aspects of diet and exercise and whether in general your child is healthy and fit. Sleep is very important and children of course need many more hours than adults and those hours of sleep need to be of good quality as well.

Why does a child have nightmares?

Both children and adults dream for more or less the same reasons. With clients whom I help with decreasing nightmares, I like to think of dreaming at night as a way for the subconscious to clear away the unresolved thoughts from that day. To  decrease the frequency and intensity of nightmares, we can look at the specific images seen or also look at the bigger picture and context of what is happening in day to day life.

Our minds are full of so many images and ideas that our brains need to crunch and process. During sleep and dreaming our subconscious minds filter and play with all the loose ends and thoughts we have ignored during our waking hours. When asleep our imagination can also run a little wild as well and our thoughts can have more freedom to express themselves. Your child will therefore dream about issues and experiences which he or she was unable to completely feel at peace with on a conscious level during the day.

Does your child have repetitive dreams?

Just like an adult, a child dreams at night about experiences both enjoyable and painful that happened during the day. If your child fears separation or fears starting school or experienced something unpleasant, these may all find expression in dreams. This can feel very disturbing for your child, especially since our dreams can feel so real.

The interpretation of your dreams or your child’s dreams may be complicated and subject to much conjecture. I would however recommend keeping it simple. Let’s remember that often the meaning of a dream may simply be more about what, in general, is happening or about the events which happened during the previous day. Of course some images seen in dreams are just simply there because that face or picture was seen the previous day and has little real importance. I’m sure you may have watched a film or spoken to a friend and found that they then, as if by magic, appeared in a dream that evening. If your child is having nightmares, it is the particular disturbing scene or image that is important. If you feel strong emotions during a dream, whether those emotions are positive or negative, these emotions point to where you need to be looking for answers.

Any child having nightmares or disturbed sleep is right now an unhappy child in some way, simple as that. This might be due to something that will pass quickly or may be due to an ongoing stress. Nightmares can feel disturbing since the dreamer feels powerless to do anything about it and feels like it is something external, happening to them and not under their control. Ensure you give your child reassurance that it was just a dream and not real. Ask also about how your child is doing and feeling. How are they feeling about school, friends and home?

Hypnotherapy can help your children with a whole range of challenges. Perhaps you had not considered hypnotherapy as something which might help your children, however hypnotherapy can be very effective and children as very receptive to hypnotherapy as well.

How can hypnotherapy help children?

Hypnotherapy can be used to help with nail biting, anxiety, behavioural problems at school or at home, thumb sucking,  exam nerves and test anxiety, sleep difficulties including nightmares, improving confidence, overeating or compulsive behaviour, fears and phobias such as fearing going to the dentist, needles, heights etc, coping with bullying. Hypnotherapy can also help with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) as well as coping better with ADHD and aspects of Tourette Syndrome.

Do all Hypnotherapists work with children?

Not all hypnotherapists work with children. Many hypnotherapists specialise in an area, be it weight reduction, overeating or perhaps smoking. However not all therapists work with children. It is advisable to check that the therapist you choose is experienced with children and this may mean that they have a background in teaching or have worked with children before. Ensure also that they have  undergone the appropriate legal background checks. In the UK, this is normally referred to as a CRB check, which are now called DBS (Disclosure and barring service) checks.

What Can I expect during sessions?

Before coming to the session, the hypnotherapist will speak with you, the parent, to get all necessary background information. You will be able and encouraged to stay for at the least the beginning of the first session and it is very normal for parents to remain for the entire length of the session. However, you are there for support and the hypnotherapist will be working with your child, so do your best to only really speak when asked and do not answer on behalf of your child if the hypnotherapist addresses your child directly with a question. However, it is very important that you feel confident and happy with sessions, so I would recommend asking all questions you have and perhaps also ‘checkin-in’ with the therapist between sessions, if you want to discuss anything at all.

Does Hypnotherapy work well with children?

Hypnotherapy sessions often also involve talking as well as guided visualisations, so be prepared that a lot of the time will feel like a regular counselling session. However at some point the therapist will ask your child to close his/her eyes and imagine some images and give them some things to think about to help with whatever is bothering them or challenging them. Children enjoy using their imagination and also have not normally seen stage hypnosis on television. This means that children do not normally have the fears that adults have that they will be asked to ‘cluck like a chicken’ or made to look silly or lose control. These are all features of stage hypnosis but do not apply to clinical hypnosis. During clinical hypnotherapy the client can open their eyes whenever they wish and normally can hear every word being said. Also children spend a lot of their day in a bit of a daze and enjoy daydreaming. This means that they more easily go into a trance, since they are more used to using their imaginations. I have personally found that whereas with adults I need to relax them and talk them gently into a very relaxed state, which can take as much as ten minutes, children are often already relaxed enough that within just a few minutes they are ready to start some guided visualisations about what they wish to work on.