Bedwetting is nothing to be ashamed about. You are certainly not somehow a bad parent because your child does not stay dry through the night, so stop that thought right now.

Children will also often feel unhappy or inadequate about it already, so there is nothing to be achieved by having it pointed out to them that ‘other children have stopped wetting their bed’ or that it is in any way the child’s fault. Just for a moment imagine the embarrassment of a child who still experiences bedwetting, whilst at a sleepover. That sounds pretty awful, you’ll agree.

In general daytime wetting stops at about three years of age, whilst stopping wetting the bed at night will end by about five. It is common for bedwetting to continue infrequently after this. Bedwetting can also occur when the family or the child is experiencing something stressful such as divorce or some sort unpleasant event. 

Why does my child wet the bed?

Bedwetting is not about laziness or necessarily a call for attention or a sign of weakness. Bedwetting may also happen more in families where siblings or even parents wet their beds, with some studies even suggesting a genetic disposition for bedwetting. Bedwetting may have a medical cause or be related to sensitivity to certain foods. Consult your doctor about any such concerns. Perhaps your child is a heavy sleeper and does not immediately wake up when feeling that their bladder is full? Be aware of possible explanations for bedwetting.

Hypnotherapy can help in a number of ways. Your child may not notice that signal that their bladder is full. Hypnotherapy will help them become more sensitive to that signal and wake up so they can go to the toilet. Hypnotherapy is also very effective for controlling habits or changing patterns of behaviour. In some cases bedwetting may have continued since it does indeed get your attention and in big families or when parents are very busy, a child will use all sorts of ways to get your attention. This is not something selfish but really a normal desire to spend time with you and feel loved. However your child can, with some help, speak up in other ways rather than getting you to take notice by bedwetting. You may also wish to consider how much quality time you spend daily with your children.

Once a child is past about five years of age, bed wetting will become an increasing embarrassing issue. Self esteem can be affected since the child will wonder why other ‘normal’ children do not wet the bed at night. Your child may then feel down about this ongoing challenge. Raising self esteem using hypnotherapy will  give you a happy child. It will also give you a confident child who feels and knows that bedwetting is not a big deal. Reducing that feeling of pressure will speed up up the process of ending bedwetting as well.

What you can do

Firstly, as a parent you can reassure your child that bedwetting is not a big deal and that you are in this challenge together. It is nothing to be ashamed about. You may also feel comfortable mentioning if it was a problem for you as a child. Of course use your judgement. It might help your child to know that they are not alone and it happens to others as well.

There are practical tips such as reducing consumption of drinks late at night. It can also be useful to explain what is happening as well. Perhaps mention that right now your child’s bladder is still growing and isn’t quite big enough to hold all the wee, but as they grow up, very soon, it will get bigger and this will all stop happening, there is no need to be concerned. I leave it to you to create your explanation.

It is in general better to ensure the bed has a plastic cover rather than putting your child into thick underpants or nappies. If your child is aware that they are wearing special nappies this may affect how they feel about themselves. They will also know that they do not need to get up to go the toilet since the nappy will absorb any fluid. This may prolong bedwetting.

Ensure you give reassurance after any accidents and that your child has a shower in the morning, so they are fresh and clean for the day. Do not make young children clean up after an accident since they may then feel that they are being punished, adding shame to the embarrassment they may already feel.

Before a sleepover you may wish to inform the parent of the home where the sleepover will be about what is going on. Then also let your child know that they can speak with that parent in confidence and privately should an accident happen. If you do not feel the parent will be sensitive, you may wish to consider other options.

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